Jewish Wedding Wedding Checklist

Engage a Rabbi

Book the officiating rabbi (mesader kiddushin). Discuss ceremony preferences, any pre-marital counseling, and halachic requirements.

Commission or Purchase Ketubah

Order the ketubah. Choose between traditional Orthodox text or a modern/egalitarian version. Many couples commission a hand-illustrated ketubah as artwork.

Arrange Chuppah

Rent, borrow, or build the chuppah canopy. Some couples use a family tallit (prayer shawl) as the canopy cloth.

Purchase Wedding Ring

Obtain a plain gold band for the ceremony. Jewish law requires the ring-3 be a simple, unadorned band owned by the groom.

Book Catering (Kosher if Required)

Arrange kosher catering if keeping kosher. Coordinate with the venue about kosher kitchen requirements.

Book Musicians or DJ

Hire a band or DJ experienced with Jewish weddings. Ensure they know hora music and any other traditional dances.

Select Two Witnesses (Eidim)

Choose two religiously observant witnesses who are not related to either the bride or groom. They will sign the ketubah.

Prepare Glass for Breaking

Get a glass (or lightbulb) and cloth wrap for the breaking of the glass ceremony.

Arrange Yichud Room and Food

Prepare a private room at the venue with light food and drinks for the couple to share after the ceremony.

Prepare Candy Bags for Aufruf

Make or buy small bags of candy for the congregation to throw at the couple during the aufruf.

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Confirm Ketubah is Ready

Verify the ketubah document is complete and ready for signing at the tish.

Set Up Chuppah

Ensure the chuppah is erected at the ceremony site and decorated if desired.

Prepare Wine and Kiddush Cups

Set out the wine and kiddush cups for the ceremony blessings.

Confirm Groom Has the Ring

Verify the plain gold band is with the groom or best man.

Place Glass for Breaking

Ensure the wrapped glass is positioned and ready for the end of the ceremony.

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