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Secular / Modern Wedding Wedding Checklist

14 items across 2 categories to plan your perfect secular / modern wedding wedding celebration.

Preparation Phase (6-12 months before)

A comprehensive checklist for planning a contemporary secular wedding.

Tradition

  • Book Officiant

    Find and book a secular celebrant, justice of the peace, or have a friend get ordained online. Meet to discuss ceremony structure, especially if blending traditions from both partners.

  • Book Ceremony and Reception Venue

    Secure the venue(s). Modern weddings use everything from barns to rooftops to forests. Confirm any restrictions (noise, fire, decor).

  • Write Personal Vows

    Write heartfelt vows. Consider setting guidelines together (length, tone) so both sets of vows feel complementary. Practice reading them aloud.

  • Obtain Marriage License

    Apply at the local clerk's office. Check processing times, expiration dates, and any waiting periods for your jurisdiction.

  • Book DJ or Band

    Hire a DJ or live band for the ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception. Provide a must-play and do-not-play song list.

  • Book Photographer and Videographer

    Hire professional photography and videography. Discuss shot list, first look, and key moments.

  • Choose Ceremony Readings

    Select poems, excerpts, or original writings for ceremony readings. Ask chosen readers in advance.

  • Plan Unity Ritual (If Desired)

    Choose and prepare materials for a unity ritual. If blending traditions, discuss with your officiant how to weave multiple elements into a cohesive ceremony.

  • Discuss Cultural Traditions

    Have an open conversation with your partner and families about which cultural elements to include. Research origins and protocols for any borrowed traditions.

Wedding Day Checklist

Day-of items to confirm and have ready.

Wedding Day

  • Bring Marriage License

    Ensure the license is at the venue and accessible for signing after the ceremony.

  • Confirm Rings

    Verify both wedding rings are with the designated ring bearer or best man.

  • Pack Vow Cards

    Ensure printed or handwritten vow cards are in the couple's possession.

  • Confirm All Vendors

    Quick confirmation check with caterer, florist, DJ/band, photographer, and officiant.

  • Prepare Send-Off Materials

    Set up sparklers, confetti, or other send-off materials with safety supplies (lighters, water buckets for sparkler disposal).

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