Vietnamese Wedding Wedding Checklist

Consult for Auspicious Date

Visit a temple, fortune teller, or consult the lunar calendar to select a lucky wedding date based on the couple's zodiac signs and elemental compatibility.

Schedule Lễ Dạm Ngõ

Arrange the pre-engagement family meeting if your family observes this tradition separately from the engagement.

Order Bridal Áo Dài

Order a custom red, gold, or colored áo dài with khăn đóng headdress for the tea ceremony. Allow ample time for fittings and embroidery.

Order Groom's Áo Dài / Áo Gấm

Order a matching áo dài or áo gấm in blue, dark red, or gold for the groom.

Purchase Traditional Tea Set

Buy a red or gold tea set for the tea ceremonies at both families' homes.

Prepare Betrothal Gift Trays (Mâm Quả)

Assemble traditional betrothal gifts on red-covered lacquered trays: betel and areca, tea, wine, fruit, cakes, sticky rice, roast pig, and jewelry. Confirm the number and contents with both families.

Recruit Tray Carriers (Đội Bưng Quả)

Invite unmarried young men and women in matching pairs to serve as gift carriers and receivers.

Source Betel Leaves and Areca Nuts

Obtain fresh betel leaves (lá trầu) and areca nuts (cau) for the ceremony.

Prepare Ancestor Altar Offerings

Arrange incense, Dragon-Phoenix candles, fruit, and other offerings for the ancestor altar prayers at both homes.

Book Banquet Venue

Reserve the restaurant or banquet hall for the reception, confirming the multi-course Vietnamese menu and capacity (300–500+ guests is common).

Order Red and Gold Decorations

Purchase or rent red and gold decorations, Song Hỷ signage, lanterns, dragon-phoenix motifs, and floral arrangements.

Prepare Wedding Program

Create a printed program or brief explanation for non-Vietnamese guests about ceremony significance and etiquette.

Complete Legal Registration

Register the marriage with local authorities as required. In Vietnam, civil registration is separate from traditional ceremonies.